Saying I Love You is Serious Business
By: Greg Harms
Are you ready to say the magic words – I love you – to someone close? Have you been wrestling around with this idea for some time now but unsure how it will go over? If so, you have come to the right place.
Love is one of the most powerful emotions in the universe. It transcends time and space and is understood across all languages. In fact, it is not even necessary for words to be spoken to feel love. That’s right! You can feel love – meaning true, fire in the gut love whenever it is present.
But is saying the words I love you really a good idea? Is it even necessary? What are the potential risks for letting that four letter word, love, slip out of your mouth?
This brief article will explore 5 things you need to know before you say the words, “I love you”. Practical advice is offered from various literature and from the psycho-spiritual realm. Concepts of love, passed on from the ancients, are imparted as part of the presentation. At the end, a poll on love is offered for you to vote in and then compare your selections with others.
Are you ready to talk about love? Alright – let’s jump right in!
1. You must possess love before you give love
This Karmic truth is extremely important to keep in mind before you say I love you to another person. In order to love another – meaning true, altruistic love – you must love yourself first.
This means that you are not dependent on another person for validation or personal completion. Love of oneself is never narcissist but instead, respectful.
2. To recognize love you must be receptive to love
True love that is felt on the physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual plains must be symbiotic. This means that both parties in the relationship experience a kinetic bond together. Love from another is not something you are entitled to or by extension – something you deserve.
To recognize the love of another, you must first be open to receiving it. This means it is necessary to purge yourself of any thoughts of entitlement. Finally under this point, you must believe you are worthy of love.
3. To receive love you must be vulnerable to love
If you are thinking of saying I love you to someone close, it is vital that you remember that being in love means being vulnerable. For all of the wonderful things that can be said about love, including feelings of completion, love can also bring great pain.
When we study love from the ancient Greeks, we see the mystery of love in all of its joys and sorrows. Love in its purest form regresses us back to a place in time where our defenses have not yet been formulated. This innocent space is primal and raw.
4. You must be committed to grow in love
Love is a constant force on the galactic plain. In the romantic sense, love will continue to expand provided it is nurtured. The reason so many relationships fail is not because someone fell out of love but instead, somebody stopped growing in love.
If you say I love you to another, be prepared to nurture that love like a flower so that it continues to bud and grow. Otherwise, it will wither on the vine.
5. You must respect the word love
If you truly love another person and want to express your feelings by saying I love you, it is important to recognize the word love is powerful. It is not something you should say flippantly to another or think of in childish terms.
Many wonderful things have been done in the name of love – and many horrible things as well. When you think of the word love or say it to another, make sure you understand the enormous power of its meaning.
Final Thoughts
Chances are that you are in a place right now that you want to say I love you to someone. The attraction you feel towards this person may be overwhelming. This is perfectly normal. Hopefully the information shared here will make you think more about this topic.
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