Dating Advice for Men: 5 Tips For Success!

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Straight Forward Dating Advice for Men

Tired of having crappy dates that never turn into anything serious? Sick of watching your buddies get all of the girls why you sit alone, empty handed? Are you looking for some practical dating advice for men that you can actually use? If so, you have come to the right place.

What follows are 5 tips for dating that are exclusive to men. These tips come from the collective opinions and experiences of the relationship specialists here at the Couples Counseling Center in Chicago. When you read these suggestions, keep in mind that they relate to one another and so it is important to view them all in their totality. Are you ready?

Let’s get started!

 [/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_raw_html]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[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_column_text]1. Keep your first date casual

This first piece of dating advice for men is all about arranging that all-important first date with a special girl. Many guys never actually get that far because they go overboard, thinking they have to woo their date by laying on a full night of entertainment for her: four-course meal, VIP lounge at a popular cocktail bar, coffee afterwards. Basically – the works.

But while you are thinking she’ll be unable to resist such a lavish attention, she may be thinking something completely different. For example, what if after five minutes of meeting you, she decides it’s not a good match? Hey, it happens! The basic rule of thumb is this – the more complicated the date, the more you have to spend and by extension, the more that can go wrong.

First dates are supposed to be simple, low commitment affairs – a drink after work; a coffee over your lunch break at a nearby location – something safe and basic. This way if she decides to bail or you want to bolt, there’s no love lost. If after that first meeting the both of you dig one another, progress to tips 2-5.

2. Focus on confidence

The second piece of dating advice for men is about self-confidence. Have you ever seen an alpha-male dude that seems to ooze confidence and seems sure of who he is? Here is the deal – many women find these type of guys irresistible! But what if you struggle in this area?

One thing you can do is think about enlisting the help of a therapist. Believe it or not, working with a helping professional, such as a counselor, can help you to better understand why you may be challenged with confidence and move about the business of helping you to create change.

Keep in mind that confidence is something that takes time to build involves a lot more than just “faking it”. True, lasting self-confidence requires that you reach deep inside and take stock of who you are and what you can do. Working with a therapist can help a tremendous deal in this area. Here’s a secret – most guys struggle in this area but you just don’t know it.

3. Be mindful with conversation

Once you have secured that first date, the focus moves on to what the two of you are going to talk about. Many guys struggle in this area because they feel they need to lead the conversation. This is not necessarily true. Let her ask a questions and be ready to listen to all that she is saying. Avoid bragging or talking about yourself. Be engaging and comment on her appearance (but don’t overdo it). Modesty can go a long way.

When it comes to dating advice for men, one other tip in the conversation department is the concept of mindfulness. In other words, be mindful of your environment and be ready to make small-talk about your surroundings. The point here is to avoid going to deep.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_raw_html]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[/vc_raw_html][/vc_column][/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1/1″][vc_column_text]4. Be decisive

You’ll come across a lot of dating advice for men that focuses on the need to be decisive during a date. There’s a reason for that; it’s true! We may be deep in the age of equality, but when it comes to going out on a date, most women want to feel they are with a man who is in control.

Being decisive does not come naturally to every guy but it really is just another technique to learn. The important thing here is to be ready to decide where the two of you will go, like a place to eat or a club for drinks.

Don’t confuse being decisive however with being a jerk! It is important you ask here where she wants to go and what she likes to do. With that shared, she says to you that she wants you to decide, be ready to do it! Have two or three places in the back of your mind to hang out. Go back to point number #1 and remember, keep it basic.

If you struggle with making decision, it may be helpful to work with a counselor or a coach to assist you in getting your confidence up. Just keep in mind that it is better to take her to a mediocre place as opposed to not having a clue as to where to go!

5. Let go of the past

One final piece of dating advice for men is to treat each date as a fresh slate and avoid ruminating about what’s gone wrong in the past. It’s OK review problem areas from previous dates but only so that you can improve your performance in the future.

Often, past bad dating experiences are due to a combination of factors with plenty of blame to go around. The point here is to not drag your previous dating issues into the present.

Summary

Dating is always a challenge. Fifty percent of the equation relates to confidence and the other 50% is about chemistry. While not mentioned in the official tips mentioned above, it goes without saying that being yourself is the most important factor in the dating equation. If you try to put on a show or act like somebody you are not, there is a good chance she will see right through you. Most people can smell a phoney a mile away!

The trick is balancing who you are with her personality. This is why individual counseling can be so helpful. The process of therapy can help you better understand who you, which in turn can help to increase you self-esteem. If you have struggled with intimacy issues in the past, counseling is critical.

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