I Love You: 15 Meaningful Ways Guys Show It Without Saying It!

I Love You Guy Style!

By: Couples Counseling Staff

Does it seem like getting an I Love You comment from you man is a struggle struggle? Does his lack of saying the words I love you make you wonder how he really feels about you? Are there times where you find yourself asking: When is the last time he said “I Love You.” If so, you are not alone.

The truth is that many men struggle with communicating feelings, particularly anything mushy like love! While it may be easy to chalk this up to emotional challenges, like intimacy issues, it is important to know that culture is a big part of the dynamic.

If you are wondering about other ways your man shows you that he loves you without actually saying it, check out our list of 15 meaningful signs. Are you ready? Let’s jump right in!

1. Smiles after a kiss

Make sure you check out our guy’s face after the two of you kiss. If he is smiling and you can see the white of his teeth, that’s a major clue about how he feels about you. This is particularly true if he grabs you with passion and kisses you like a man!

2. Long, meaningful kisses

If your guy takes his time kissing you and does so in a way that is purposeful, consider this a major indication of his feelings. You should be able to feel the intimacy and closeness when this happens. Make sure you are mindful of this the next time you two smooch!

3. He sits or stands close to you

You know your guy really loves you when he sits close to you or makes an effort to stand by you. When in public, he doesn’t try to create distance or give the impression the two of you aren’t together. It’s not that he is being clingy but instead, his way of showing that he really likes being around you.

4. He actually listens to you

Some guys simply pretend they are listening to a partner but in truth are completely tuned out. Other men, particularly guys who are in love, tend to listen to their mate with intent. This is part of having good communications skills.

5. Squeezes your hand

If your guy grabs your hand and squeezes it, particularly during a touching moment or perhaps just because, he is trying to tell say, “I love you”. Touch is a very real part of romantic relationships. Make sure you tune into how he touches you and when.

6. He remembers details

If your man remembers things you have said in the past that are important to you, this means what you said was important to him. It is also, in the very literal sense, the language of love.

7. He’s on top of the money

If the two of you live together or share expenses, a strong way of him showing his love for you is by staying on top of the money. One of the big reasons relationships fail is because apathy about the relationship.

8. He takes care of himself

This way of saying I love you may not make sense but when you think about it for a moment, things click into place. A guy who loves his partner wants to take care of himself in order to remain attractive. In other words, he isn’t letting himself go – which happens to be a major reasons couples break up!

9. Texting you just because

If from time to time your man sends you a text as a way of checking in – consider this his way of demonstrating love. Sure, he may be acting a bit territorial (guys are wired for this) but he likely just wants to gently show that he cares about you without coming out and saying int.

10. He makes strong eye contact

You can tell a lot by looking into your man’s eyes. When he talks to you or is listening to you, he is saying “I Love You” when he gazes into your eyes. You may even be able to see a sparkle, depending upon his eye color. Make sure you focus on this area the next time you are talking or love making.

11. Lots of laughter

If your man laughs or giggles whenever you say something funny, that’s a good indication of his feelings for you. Men who are in love often respond with laughter to mate’s comments or just by being in their presence. Don’t take offense if he busts out laughing sometimes. He’s trying to tell you something.

12. He does special things for you

Does he make coffee for you sometimes without you asking? How about surprising you with dinner? Guys who are in love will often do special things for their mate as a demonstration of their feelings. Don’t confuse this however with guilt for something he has done as a way of saying, “I’m sorry”. The little things he does for you most likely are spontaneous.

13. Thoughtful gifts

Has your man given you a gift that made it apparent that he really thought about what he was giving you? If so, take this as a sign that he truly loves you. Most guys are clueless when it comes to gift giving unless they are emotionally connected to a mate.

14. Has a nickname for you

A surefire way to tell if your man loves you is to pay attention to how he refers to you. If he uses an affectionate name, like “Baby” or “Cupcake”, take it as a major indication that he is close to you. The opposite is true if your man uses insulting comments or names.

15. He tickles you

Does your guy sometimes tickle you for no reason? This is likely a form of affection with the added benefit of the giggles. Who doesn’t like to be tickled by someone they love? He doesn’t have to have a reason to do this either. Sometimes, tickling can be spontaneous.